The tricky part of this endeavor is some snakes look venomous when they aren't while others actually are venomous. This has reminded me of a necessary reality: looks can be deceiving, especially when it comes to character.
In these situations, there is something we can reach out to for help. This tool is one anyone has available to them. Everyone can provide it for others, no matter where they are or who they are. What is it? An outside perspective. Feedback. Observations from a distance. When we are in the midst of a problem (or jungle of them) it can be hard for us to see a solution. Things are complex, complicated, and convoluted. Complexity breeds complication. The more I have to handle, deal with, or get done the harder things are. Simplicity brings clarity.
At the end of the day leadership in any realm - parenting, business, sports, etc. - comes down to relational influence. To lead someone else is really to influence them. And if we are going to influence others it begins and ends with relationships.
Four years ago when I was going through the interview process for my current role, I was asked that exact question. "How do you lead others?"
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Preacher on the Run... 