The stands were crowded. The fans were loud. And the game was underway. The clock read 5:32 and was counting down to the end of the first half. I don’t remember what the score was. I honestly, can’t even remember who we were playing. All I remember is constantly looking to the stands during our huddles and timeouts. With every glance and extended gaze into the crowd, I grew more concerned and frustrated. Where was he?
That morning, my dad had said he would be at the game. I believed him, I had no reason not to. He had always been to my games, my award ceremonies, etc. There was not an event in my life I could remember where he was not present. So my fathers perceived absence from my game was troubling. It really was his presence I craved and desired, regardless of how close or far away he was. This was especially true for my sports games.
“I’ve had more heart-to-heart, ‘life talks’ around the issues of sports than any other single thing.”Tim Ray
The presence of a father is highly important to children. Endless studies show the negative effects of fatherlessness. My personal experience embedded in me how important a father’s presence is. My dad’s experience shaped him to value being present as a dad. And I am so glad I can say my dad was and still is very present in my life. For that I am thankful. Father’s Day always causes me to reflect on the impact my dad had on me and evaluate the impact I want to have on my kids. I appreciate how Cara Ray recorded her husband, Tim’s, top 10 list of the ordinary things that have reaped extraordinary blessing in his life as a Dad.
Number 6 on Tim’s list was so important to me, but also lived out so well by my dad. As an FYI, my dad stood directly beside my teammates and I’s pathway to the locker room at halftime that night. He did so to ensure I knew he was there and that he had been there the entire game. It changed my night. And his presence at all my games and events throughout childhood is one of the greatest gifts my dad has ever given me. Thanks dad!
What number on Tim’s list do you appreciate that your dad did? Which one do you wish your dad would have done better? I’d love to hear from you! As always, be with the Lord’s people on the Lord’s day. And call your dad to say thanks just for being your dad.
Until Next Time…
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