I still remember it like yesterday. It was just after midnight over 7 years ago. My wife and I had been anticipating this moment for months. Emotions were high. We were both excited and nervous. Fear and trepidation flowed into joy and gladness. Then it happened…
I held my son for the very first time. At 10 minutes past midnight I became a father for the very first time. All those emotions came rushing out (yes, I cried). There has been no other experience like it. A moment in time where I felt on top of the world and at the same time uncertain what I was going to do. Being a dad has not only been one of the greatest joys of my life, but also one of the most difficult, character shaping realities.
Kids are hard. They require time, attention, instruction, correction, and so much more. There are so many other things vying for my focus and so many easy ways to occupy the children so I can get things done. But the reality is if I want my children to grow up to love the Lord and people (Matthew 22:36-40; Ecclesiastes 12:13) it will require intentional active fathering (Deuteronomy 6:4-9; Psalm 78:1-8; Ephesians 6:4).
“You’ll never have a home that is Christian if you are not willing to invest your time in your children.”Tony Evans
To invest your time in your children will take intentionality and active parenting. Far too often, I find myself passively fathering. This type of parenting will not bear the fruit God has called me to nourish. Tony Evan’s reminder in “No More Passive Fathering” was just the challenge I needed during this time. After a few years of fathering (and a few months of being at solely at home with the kids all day long) passive fathering snuck in way too quickly.
I hope you are encouraged and challenged by the article. If you are not yet a father, I encourage you to read it and apply it in relationship with younger generations. If you know a father please pass it along to them as well.
As always be with the Lord’s people on the Lord’s day and leave me a comment below – I’d love to interact with you!