Self-control. It’s funny how a desire that comes so naturally (control) can be so difficult when paired with the adjective (self). Control is something we desire so much in life. We want to control our schedule. We desire to control our workflow. We want to control results. The desire for control seems to come naturally to us, that is until what is needing to be controlled is our self. Nothing has taught me more about self-control than parenting.
I caught my son one day smashing to bits an older toy of his with a stick. My immediate response was, “stop”. But then I engaged and asked the obvious question, “Why are you destroying your toy?”. To which my son replied, “It isn’t working like it’s supposed to.” What was at the core of this situation? Control. You see my son in realizing he couldn’t control the toy as he desired, ultimately lost his control in the process. But I had to go deeper.
Why was he responding like this? What made him think it was ok to utterly decimate his toy in such a violent fashion? Why did he lose his self-control in this manner? So I asked him and the response I got crippled me on the spot.
“Dad, when you were fixing the lawnmower the other day and it wasn’t working, you started hitting it just like this“… Wow! Crippled. Humbled. Shamed. Yet accurate. It was at that moment I realized that if I wanted “The Simplest Way to Teach My Kids Self Control“, I would have to start with me.
This is the crux of the issue and heart of the article Jon Acuff writes over at Parent Cue. It’s funny and humbling how the age-old adage, “more is caught than taught” holds true in every form of daily life.
Enjoy the article and as always be with the Lord’s people on the Lord’s day!