I can still remember the day, time, place, and emotions of that day. It changed my life. It changed the lives of many I knew. And it changed the life of my entire family. I had been told that such an event in one’s life could have and would have dramatic results, but I never grasped the meaning and depth of change my life would encounter until that day. March 10th, 2013 @ 12:10AM my life changed forever. I became a dad.
Having a son, and now two daughters, and another son on the way soon has drastically changed my outlook and experience of life. I love being a dad. Don’t get me wrong it is hard. Very hard at times. And to be honest, I regularly see myself as a failing parent. Was I too easy on him? Am I too hard on him? Should I have acted sooner? Should I have waited before helping out? All of this and more are daily internal battles I have with myself. But one thing I know, while there are many styles of parenting, tough love is needed for every child at some point in their lives.
That is why I love so much Abigail Shrier’s article “‘Knock It Off’ and ‘Shake It Off’: The Case for Dad-Style Parenting“. In a way I would not have thought about before, Shrier makes a great argument for why kids need, what she calls, “dad-style parenting. While I am not the best guy to ask about how to parent “dad-style”. This article challenged me, yet again on my duty and privilege as a dad.
I hope you enjoy the article and as always be with the Lord’s people on the Lord’s day!